How not to brief your wedding photographer – tips to help you to have an awesome relationship with your wedding photographer

There’s a lot of information around about the sort of questions to ask your wedding photographer, what to tell them and how to make sure they get the shots you want.

This recent article telling people how to brief their wedding photographer had a few photographers I know sighing in despair, and there are lots of other examples of misinformation that actually makes it harder for us to do our jobs and get you the awesome images you commission us for, on the day of your wedding.

Most of these articles aren’t written by people who have experience of photographing weddings, so they don’t really know how a wedding photographer approaches your wedding day.

Here are some common bits of advice, when it comes to wedding photography, and whether or not you should buy into them.

“You should find examples of images you like on the internet, in wedding magazines or on pintrest, to show to your photographer”


You should definitely invest time in working out what style of photography you like BEFORE you book a photographer.

Collecting examples of images you like is a great way to get a feel for the overall style you like and doing so before you book your photographer will help you to work out what you’re looking for.

If you prefer more classic images then book a photographer who specialises in images with that look. If you like something a little more documentary, then find a wedding photographer who specialises in reportage. If you want something a bit quirkier then find a wedding photographer whose portfolio has those sorts of images in.

A great photographer will have their own, distinctive style

Think of it as being like eating in a restaurant. You wouldn’t go to Marcus Waring restaurant and then ask for a Heston Blumenthal signature dish.  A good photographer will have their own, distinctive style and they will photograph your wedding in that way.

I am always happy to be flexible in my approach and I always tailor my approach to my clients and their weddings, so that their photography reflects them as a couple.

What I won’t do is recreate other photographers’ shots or significantly change my style from wedding to wedding.

Having said that, it’s still really, really useful to send us a link to your Pintrest or any wedding inspiration, so that I can get an idea of the type of day you’re planning.

Outdoor wedding ceremony at Homme House


You should make a list of “must-have” shots, print it out and give it to your photographer.


A list of family group shots is important and any photographer worth their salt will ask for this information as part of their planning process.

What’s less productive is providing a long list of other must-have shots.

I will always take pictures of the key moments and I always take lots of pictures of the details of the day. I don’t need to be told to do this, it comes as standard. A good photographer knows that they need to capture your cake, outfits, flowers and all of the details you’ve spent a long time planning. I also know that I need to capture the story, the people, and key moments like the first kiss or walking back down the aisle.

If I’m given a list to work to, most of the things on the list are invariably shots I’d capture anyway because that’s what I’m there for.

A list kills spontaneity and kills your photographer’s ability to work organically!

A list interrupts your photographer’s ability to work organically, and awesome, spontaneous moments might be missed while they focus on working through specific shots that you have asked for.

Imagine me missing Aunty Nora doing the running man on the dance floor because you’d given me a list of other things to capture! That would be a terrible shame. Working in a creative documentary style means focussing on the story, rather than trying to create a story from a list that you have provided.

By all means, give your photographer a list of one or two things that are especially important to you but don’t let a huge list of must-have shots get in the way of them being fully attuned with what’s going on around them.

Silver shoes next to antique rug at homme house

You should do a venue visit with your photographer

False. Kind of.

There are differing schools of thought on venue visits.

Personally I don’t feel I need to do one. If I visit a venue at 2pm, the chances of the light/weather being the same even at 2pm on the same day a week later are slim.

A good photographer will have all the equipment they need to photograph your wedding whatever the weather or light is doing, so there’s not much need to do a venue visit.

A great wedding photographer will work with the light on the day, to create the best possible outcomes

Some photographers do like to scout for portrait locations in advance. I usually find that there’s enough time on the day to do this.

The exception to this is if you’re planning on going off-site, away from your venue for portraits. That being the case it can be worth working out locations in advance so you can minimise the time you’re away from your guests.

You can often do this using Google maps if an actual visit is logistically difficult.


You should check what equipment your photographer uses

False. Kind of.

It’s definitely worth checking that your photographer has back up equipment. Photographers kind of hate to be asked what kit they use though.

Let’s go back to that restaurant scenario. Does the cooker a chef uses impact on what the final dish tastes like? Would you ask them what brand/make of cooker they are using?

Photography is a little different and, yes, you’d want to be sure that your photographers equipment is up to the job. The best way of doing this is looking through a few full wedding galleries, to make sure their work is of a consistent standard.

Ask them to show you at least one full wedding that’s happened in similar conditions to yours. I.e if you’re getting married in the Winter ask to see an example of a Winter wedding they have photographed.

There are awesome photographers who don’t have the highest spec cameras and there are rubbish ones who have all of the best kit.

It’s all about how you use the kit you have and how you use it.


You should make sure your photographer is insured


A good photographer, who is operating as a professional business owner, should have public liability and professional indemnity insurance as a minimum.


Good wedding photography will cost upwards of £1000

True. Kind of.

For a good, experienced photographer with a defined and well honed style you’re often looking at more like £1500 – £2000 as a starting price.



Your photographer can fix that in Photoshop afterwards

False. Kind of.

Most photographers will strive to get things right in camera.

If aunty Mildred nips off to the loo during your group shots, I can’t photoshop her in afterwards.

Well I could but it would involve a lot of work. It would also be reliant on me being able to get a shot of her in the same lighting that your original shot was taken in.

If you have a big spot on the end of your nose on your wedding day I’ll happily remove it for you but personally I don’t believe in materially altering reality. I am there to document your wedding in all it’s glorious, realistic detail.

I can make you look good by positioning you correctly and photographing in good light. And I’ll edit each of your pictures, individually, to make them look their best but where we’re going, we don’t need Photoshop.

Creative bride and groom portrait at Barbican Conservatory Wedding


Your photographer can control the weather/your snap happy uncle that keeps getting in shot/the vicar and their rules about no photography during the ceremony

False. Some things conspire to prevent us from doing our jobs. Photo bombing relatives and their cameras/ipads, vicars or registrars who don’t want to play ball and the weather can all impact on our ability to get the job done. As can not being given enough time.

There are work arounds for most of them. If you know one of your friends or relatives is a little excitable with their camera, you can have a word with them before hand. Or consider an unplugged ceremony.

If it looks like rain you can decide to embrace it and get wet, or at least be bold and venture outside with an umbrella.

You can have a chat with your vicar in advance to find out their stance on photography.

You can work through timings with your photographer, to make sure you allow plenty of time to create some magical shots.

Your photography should be a collaboration and that means you need to do everything you can to help your photographer to get awesome shots, as well as investing time in the process. You can read more about planning your photography and things to consider in my Planning Your Photography series, here.

Colourful Barbican Conservatory Wedding Photography

Your photographer will give you all the pictures they take on the day

False.  It’s not that we’re keeping pictures from you on purpose.  It’s more that some of our pictures won’t be usable.  Non usable images usually fall into three different categories.

1) Where we were checking exposure/reading the light

2) Where we try a few different versions of the same image (different exposure/composition etc) to get the perfect shot

3) Where you were blinking or worse.

4) Near identical duplicates – no one needs 8 versions of the same confetti shot

I probably deliver 1/3 of the images I take on the day of the wedding and the rest are disposed of as part of the editing process.  And that’s not just me being snap happy; I once read an interview with a photographer who shot for National Geographic.  He shot 35 roles of film to produce enough images for a 4 page spread in the magazine.  That four page spread probably had no more than 10 pictures featured.

When you are shooting people and moments, there is always a pinnacle of every moment.  The best possible capture of the emotion and the story.  Everything leading up to that moment and everything after is  a lesser version of the same picture and who wants that?

Trust your photographer to curate the images they create for you and they will provide you with the best representation of your day.

You should trust your photographer do their thing

TRUE. So very, very true.

Let’s face it, most of us have been to a lot more weddings than you have. I’ve photographed more than 130 weddings so far.

We love nothing better than a client who tells us they want us to do our thing, who then trusts us to get on with it.

If you have invested time and money in securing the services of an awesome wedding photographer, the best thing you can do is give them time and space to do what they do best.

So that’s it. Some common myths debunked. What did I miss? Let me know in the comments.

Do check out my other articles about wedding photography and planning here.

Laura Babb is a North London Wedding Photographer, providing creative documentary wedding photography across the UK and Europe.

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  1. I’m not a photographer but it all makes perfect sense! It’s all about educating people and unfortunately sometimes there’s a few photographers that need to be educated too… like the one I saw the other day saying she want a photographer for her own wedding but didn’t want to pay more than £300 because she has packages starting from £200 and doesn’t want to pay much for something she could do herself (just that she can’t because she’s the bride)!Crazy!! I’ll be sharing this on my page.

  2. Spot on Laura. I think educating and helping our couples with stuff like this just as big part of the job as taking and providing the images. It about setting awesome but realistic expectations. Not blowing heads up with nonsense and poor advice from glossy bridal magazines!

  3. Excellent article Laura. Couldn’t agree more. These silly articles such as the Telegraph one drive me nuts and are SO unhelpful – completely counter-productive. I couldn’t agree more with them in one respect – I agree totally that brides need to make sure they choose a good quality photographer, the right photographer who will best capture their day in the way that’s important to them. But the advice in the Telegraph article will not help them to do that! It is so erroneous and more likely to create a disparity between expectations and results than any kind of harmony or success. Your advice is sensible, realistic, helpful and accommodating. I do wonder how the Telegraph would react to someone telling them that they will buy their newspaper if they alter their style of writing and article content to suit them personally, or perhaps wandering into their offices with a copy of the Daily Mail and asking them to produce work a bit more like that. NO if you don’t like the style/content – buy a different paper! Just as you should book a photographer whose style fits in with what you want – if you don’t like what they do, book a different one!

  4. Reading article, nodding head! I can’t agree more – it’s always really bugged me that (some) publications are quick to reveal how photographers are getting away with it while charging the earth to do it. And then telling you *how* photographers should do their job. They’re also happy to ask for advertising money from the same photographers they pigeonhole…

    It’s not 1986!

    I’ve also read in magazines that couples should ‘Make sure they ask photographers for the copyright of their images’ – it’s crazy that even industry specialists don’t understand copyright today.


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