Just engaged? Here’s some advice for you! And it’s probably not what you think
Are you newly engaged? Congratulations! Being newly engaged is a pretty special time in its own right. It shouldn’t feel any different but somehow it does.
What you probably don’t know yet about being newly engaged is that quite a lot of people, from your friends and family to glossy wedding magazines, will have a view about what you should be doing in terms of planning your wedding and even in terms of the type of wedding you should have.
If you check out the #justengaged hashtag on Instagram you’ll be forgiven for thinking that you should have booked the venue, decided on the outfits and picked decor, all while packing away your Christmas presents and planning a stylish New Year’s Eve party.
Being newly engaged is exciting, wonderful, and really deserves to be enjoyed
I’m here to tell you not to worry about it. Not yet, at least. Being newly engaged is exciting and wonderful. It really deserves to be enjoyed. I prescribe a period of at least a few months where you just enjoy your engagement.
Wedding planning, however low key (and I’ve photographed everything from a tiny London elopements to destination weddings) doesn’t have to be stressful. That said, it does involve some work. Making decisions and planning of logistics takes energy, so why not have fun ‘just’ being engaged for a while? Spend time together, celebrate and put weddings out of your mind until you’re ready.
No need to worry about booking your venue or suppliers just yet±!
Don’t worry about searching for a wedding venue, agreeing to the guest list or booking your wedding photographer. Just breathe. Don’t smother your happy just-engaged-glow with the logistics of planning a wedding just yet. Don’t get me wrong, planning can be fun but it will wait until you’re ready.
When you are ready you might want to pop back to this post, as you’ll find some useful resources below to help you along the way.
What next? A little bit of wedding Planning Advice to help you along the way
Once you do get into the nitty-gritty of wedding planning, this article about timings and how they work in relation to your wedding photography might come in handy. In fact, I have a whole series of articles on wedding planning advice in relation to wedding photography that you might want to read. You can find a round-up of the most popular posts here. If you’re working with another wedding photographer they may work differently so you’ll need to have a chat with them about their approach.
My guide to wedding photography styles and how to choose a wedding photographer will help you to demystify wedding photography and if you do want to learn more, you can find a little about my style and approach here. This article about How Not To Brief Your Wedding Photographer might come in useful too.
Most of all, more than any of the advice, links or sources of visual inspiration out there think about what you want from your wedding. Some of the happiest weddings I have been a part were special and emotional because they truly reflected the couple and their personalities. My favourite weddings to photograph are those where everyone is having an awesome time.
Maybe you want to marry with just the two of you against the backdrop of a beautiful landscape? Or involve 150 of your favourites in a party of epic proportions? Whatever you have in mind, there’s no reason that you can’t have a wedding that truly reflects your wishes. You don’t need to think about that now though. Crack open another bottle of fizz and celebrate your engagement!